What you Need to Know About Your Divorce Trial that Your Lawyer May Not Tell You – Part II: Five Things smart divorce clients do during their divorce trial

 

What you do before and during your divorce trial has an effect on the outcome of the case. In this second installment of Hightower Reff Law’s series What you Need to Know About Your Divorce Trial That Your Lawyer May Not Tell You, I’ll share five things smart divorce clients do during and before their divorce trial. These five things could help boost your chances of getting what you want at your divorce trial (or at the least, help prevent things that can screw up your case.)

In my years as an Omaha divorce lawyer and child custody lawyer, I’ve noticed that clients who are effective players in their divorce legal team usually share five common behaviors. Those things seem to have a positive influence on not only the outcome of the case, but also the way their divorce trial impacts their children’s lives and their own.

In this article I’ll share with you the five things these smart clients do during their divorce trial that have a positive impact on the outcome of their case.

What you need to know about your divorce trial that your lawyer may not tell you: What you do during your divorce case matters 

Smart clients know that a real divorce trial isn’t like the ones you see on television. How effective your lawyer can be on your behalf is limited by reality. That means actual facts – the way things are.

The court makes its findings for your divorce decree based on evidence – or, in other words, proof of relevant facts. Things like financial circumstances, including income, retirement savings, and debt are important facts the court considers. In child custody, your life style and behavior also come into play as the court evaluates the best interests of the child. During the trial, it’s your lawyer’s job to present all of this evidence to the court.

What you do or don’t do during your divorce case will affect whether your divorce lawyer is able to present evidence effectively to prove your side of the case. It may also bear upon how much credibility or weight the court gives some of the evidence both sides present.

Next Time in the Series

Next time in the series What you Need to Know About Your Divorce Trial that Your Lawyer May Not Tell You, we’ll step inside the courtroom to prepare you for what to expect on the big day (or multiple days) of your divorce trial.

(If you missed Part I of this series, What you Need to Know About Your Divorce Trial That Your Lawyer May Not Tell You – Has my Lawyer Fallen From the End of the Earth? Don’t fret, you can catch up here.) 

 

This article should not be construed as legal advice. Situations are different and it’s impossible to provide legal advice for every situation without knowing the individual facts. 


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5 Ways to Turn Your Divorce Case Into a Train Wreck

There are plenty of opportunities for divorcing spouses to make a mess out of everything during a divorce case. In this article I’ll tell you about five things that will turn your divorce case into a train wreck.

Divorce is tough. It’s emotional. Your soon to be ex-spouse may also be a complete bag of (insert preferred expletive). Maybe they’re so bad that you’re considering doing whatever you can to stick it to him/her during your divorce case out of spite.

Maybe spousal retribution isn’t your goal, but you’re just so emotional about the ordeal, you don’t know

I’ve seen clients employ these five tactics with great success… if your goal is screwing up your divorce. Read on and learn the secrets so you too can turn your divorce case into a train wreck; or avoid it (the preferable goal).*

 

 

Consider keeping your nose on your face instead 

Doing any or all of these things is likely to make your divorce case take longer and cost both you and your spouse more. More in financial and emotional resources.

If you choose to turn your divorce case into a train wreck instead of behaving prudently, you’ll also have to wait longer before you can move on with life.

Notice that I’m talking about you, not your spouse? If making the divorce tougher to spite your spouse is your goal, you may accomplish it. However, you’re also quite likely to cut off your own nose to spite your face.

Consider as well that acting in these ways is likely to harm your credibility with the court. Bad behavior that calls into question your parental judgment or fitness could also negatively affect your child custody case.  Moreover, in some circumstances, the court could sanction you for contempt of court. (Your friend Larry is wrong.)

At any rate, if you act badly during your divorce case, you’ll cause major collateral damage. The victims likely to be hurt most… your children.

*Hightower Reff Law doesn’t endorse train wrecks

As you may have gathered, Hightower Reff Law doesn’t endorse these ill-advised spite tactics or purposefully turning your divorce into a train wreck in any way. We strongly suggest you not try these five ways to turn your divorce case into a train wreck, or any others.

These kinds of bad behaviors are very likely to harm the outcome of your divorce case and/or damage your family relationships. Most concerning, some of these emotionally driven, poor choices hurt children.

I hope this information will help readers avoid these mistakes.The client who makes well reasoned, rational choices, instead of emotional poor choices can be at peace, knowing their family relationships and children won’t suffer avoidable negative consequences.

 

This article should not be construed as legal advice. Situations are different and it’s impossible to provide legal advice for every situation without knowing the individual facts.  


Author, Hightower Reff  Partner Attorney Susan Reff, is a well respected Omaha, Nebraska family law and criminal law attorney with more than fifteen years of law practice experience. For more about Susan, visit her profile page.

If you need help with an Omaha area divorce or other Omaha family law case, contact Hightower Reff Law today and come visit with one of the attorneys at the Omaha office. 

Divorce Property Settlement Tax Pitfalls – Hiding won’t Help. Divorce and Taxes Part III

Divorce property settlement tax pitfalls can be an unpleasant post-divorce surprise. Hiding, unfortunately, won’t make the problem go away.

Marital property transfers to one spouse or another during or related to a divorce generally don’t bring tax consequences. However, like most generalities, there are always exceptions.

In Part I of this series, I talked about your divorce dream team. I suggested that, along with an experienced divorce lawyer like those at Hightower Reff law, a tax attorney or a CPA may be a valuable part of your divorce team. Possible divorce property settlement tax pitfalls are yet another reason to consider enlisting a tax pro during your divorce.

Divorce Property Settlement Tax Pitfall 1 – Selling the House 

You must report gain or loss from the sale of jointly owned property on your taxes in the tax year of the sale. Your individual state’s law determines what your share of that gain or loss amounts to. This is another area that can get sticky, and where a tax attorney or CPA can be helpful.

If you sell your primary home when you’re no longer married, watch out. Your tax basis on the capital gain is different than it would have been when you were married. Married couples filing jointly can exclude up to $500,000 of gain from the sale, while single tax filers can only exclude half that amount, at $250,000.

When the Primary Residence Exclusion Doesn’t Count

One of the most common divorce property settlement tax pitfalls happens when a divorcing couple keeps the family home in both of their names after the divorce. It’s often so one spouse can live there with the children until they’re grown.

The spouse who no longer has the house as their primary residence often ends up with an expensive tax consequence when it’s sold years later.

 

IRS Publication 523, Selling Your Home, is a helpful read that includes special rules you should know if you’re separated or divorced and selling a main home.

The non-recognition rule – isn’t always recognized

Usually you don’t pay taxes on division of marital assets because of divorce. That’s because the “non recognition rule” doesn’t recognize a gain or loss on property transfer between spouses or former spouses (so long as the transfer between former spouses is because of divorce.)

However, there are some circumstances in which the IRS considers a property transfer as a gain by one spouse – which means it’s taxable.

 Non-taxable transfers

Some other things you may not think of that you can transfer without tax consequences during or incident to a divorce (under definition of IRS regulations):

  • Health savings account (HSA)
  • Archer medical savings account (MSA)
  • Individual retirement arrangement (IRA)   (stay tuned for more on this)

Next in the series

Next time in the final installment of Divorce and Taxes, we’ll have a look at key points to know about retirement account division roadblocks when it comes to your tax bill.

(If you missed Part I or Part II of the series, you can catch them here.)

This article should not be construed as legal advice. Situations are different and it’s impossible to provide legal advice for every situation without knowing the individual facts. 

Author, Hightower Reff  Partner Attorney Tracy Hightower, holds both a Juris Doctor and  a Master of Laws in Taxation. For more about Tracy, visit her profile page.

If you need help with an Omaha area divorce or other Omaha family law case, contact Hightower Reff Law today and come visit with one of the attorneys at the Omaha office

 

Collaborative Divorce – A Truly Amicable Alternative (Infographic)

 

collaborative-divorce-hightower-reff-2At Hightower Reff Law, not only do we practice in traditional divorce, we also offer collaborative divorce – a truly amicable alternative.  Attorney Scott Hahn and I are among the relatively small number of Nebraska lawyers certified in collaborative divorce.

Why collaborative divorce is a truly amicable alternative

The traditional divorce process happens our adversarial court system. Despite the Nebraska court process mixing in alternative dispute resolution efforts like mediation – in the end, divorcing spouses often end up duking it out in court. Collaborative divorce offers something different.

Collaborative divorce can result in a better outcome for the family in the short and long term. This is especially true when children are involved, because the adults must continue co-parenting after the divorce. Bruised emotions and hard feelings from a bloody court battle can cause additional problems between the parents for years. That’s not good for the children.


Hightower Reff Law is a team of confident, clear, committed attorneys representing clients in the Omaha metro and surrounding areas in family law and criminal defense/dui.


How it works

In simplified terms, the collaborative divorce process involves you and your spouse working with a team of professionals to come up with an agreement for submission to the court to become a final order. You’ll need to have some court involvement to get everything finalized, but it will be brief and uncontested because you’ll have everything agreed upon ahead of time instead of “duking it out.”

Here’s an infographic with the nuts and bolts:

 

The collaborative process puts you in control

In traditional, litigation-centered divorce, unless you and your spouse reach agreement via mediation or negotiation, a judge has the decision making power. In collaborative divorce, you and your spouse control the process from the beginning and you have the power throughout the process.

I’ve been practicing divorce and family law for quite a few years. Through my experience I’ve learned that both spouses in a divorce are most satisfied with the outcome of their case when they’ve had input, instead of having the final order forced on them by a court.

When both sides are generally satisfied with the outcome of a case, both sides are more likely to comply with the final court order. That means it’ll be less likely they’ll have to keep dragging one another back to court to enforce that order.

These are some of the reasons I decided to become certified in collaborative divorce to better serve my clients – and why I believe so strongly in the process for the right cases.

 

This article should not be construed as legal advice. Situations are different and it’s impossible to provide legal advice for every situation without knowing the individual facts. 


For details about the author, Hightower Reff  Partner Attorney Tracy Hightower, visit her profile page.

More information about Hightower Reff’s collaborative divorce practice is available here.

If you need help with a Nebraska divorce, contact Hightower Reff Law today and come visit with one of the attorneys at the Omaha office. 

Divorce Temporary Hearings – You Should Know This (Infographic)

divorce-temporary-hearingDivorce temporary hearings can be intimidating. Let’s face it – the entire divorce process can be intimidating. Arming yourself with information and having good support can make it a lot less so.


Hightower Reff Law is a team of confident, clear, committed attorneys representing clients in the Omaha metro and surrounding areas in family law and criminal defense/dui.


Our Divorce Temporary Hearings infographic fills you in on some basics about divorce temporary hearings.  If you’re going through a divorce or thinking about filing for divorce, this may help make the process more clear – and maybe less daunting.

 

You may have heard the saying “good fences make good neighbors.” At Hightower Reff Law, our team of divorce attorneys has many years of experience in all kinds of marital dissolution cases. From complicated, high asset divorces with children and family owned businesses, to cases involving domestic violence, as well as simple divorces with no children – we’ve done it. Our diverse experience has taught us that, no matter the case, a temporary court order detailing the rights and responsibilities of both parties during the divorce is an important “fence” to put in place.

 

This article should not be construed as legal advice. Situations are different and it’s impossible to provide legal advice for every situation without knowing the individual facts. 


For details about the author, Hightower Reff Attorney Scott Hahn, visit his profile page.

More information about Hightower Reff’s divorce practice is available here.

If you need help with a Nebraska divorce, contact Hightower Reff Law today and visit one of the attorneys at the Omaha office. 

Pet Custody in Divorce – Who Gets the Family Beagle?

Pet Custody in DivorceMany families include members with four paws instead of hands and feet. Pet custody or pet possession issues are seeing more litigation in divorce courtrooms in recent years.

In a recent survey from the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers, more than 25 percent of attorneys report they noticed an increase in the number of couples who have fought over pet custody during the past five years.

Some courts across the United States are changing their approach to the pet custody issue.

You get the Crockpot. I get the Cat.

Like most states, Nebraska considers pets to be personal property, so they are technically subject to the same rules of equitable division in a divorce case as would be a crockpot or a living room furniture set.

Also, like any other personal property, because a dog can’t be split in half, if divorcing couples can’t agree on who gets custody of a pet after the divorce, some courts will force the pet to be sold and the proceeds of the sale divided between the parties.

But You’ve Never Loved a Casserole Dish Like This 

As attitudes toward pets change and they are seen as more part of the family, the legal analysis is showing signs of changing, too. Some courts are recognizing that pets aren’t quite the same as a casserole dish or a car.

There are feelings attached to pets and many believe those feelings run both ways – not just from the human to the pet, but from the pet to the human as well.

Best Interests Arguments – for Children and Chihuahuas

Courts in some states are starting to treat pets – usually dogs – almost in the same way as children when it comes to pet custody and considering the best interests of the animal in the pet custody decision. Some judges have even awarded visitation rights or joint custody. Because pets are still considered property, however, courts will usually term it something else, like “alternating possession.”

In some cases where child custody is also at issue, there may be an argument that that what’s in the best interest of the child may include custody of the pet.

How Scooping Poop Could Win Your Pet Custody Case

Many courts just don’t have the time to monitor ongoing disputes that could arise over time when there are pet visitation or joint pet custody arrangements for a pet in a divorce case. Also, the court’s packed calendar may make it necessary to deal with the pet possession issue as expediently as possible at trial. As a result, some courts will look at equitable principals to determine who has the better claim to ownership.

Most often the court will look at factors like who was the animal’s primary caregiver – who walked the dog, scooped the poop, took the dog or cat to the vet and the groomer, bought the food, etc. Saying that scooping poop could win your case may be a bit of an overstatement, but it could be a factor in proving that you are the primary caregiver – which, for many courts, could be the deciding factor that firms up the finding for Fido.

Take Control of Fido’s Fate 

The alternatives a court might come up with if an agreement can’t be reached by you and your soon-to-be ex may not always be good ones. Selling a beloved family pet isn’t something most people we’ve worked with at Hightower Reff Law want to do. A good way to avoid the possibility is to take control yourself through mediation.

In mediation, both parties sit down with a neutral third party who is a trained mediator and work out a solution to the pet custody problem – much like they would work out a solution to child custody issues.

When an issue has such emotional significance, it’s far too important to leave the decision in the hands of someone else. In our many years of practice, the attorneys at Hightower Reff Law have found that our clients are almost always more satisfied with – and more likely to follow – an agreement they reached themselves in mediation rather than an order handed down by a court.

What to Look for in a Lawyer

If your divorce involves a family pet that’s important to you, bring up the issue in your initial consultation with an attorney. Make sure he or she is familiar with pet custody or possession issues, understands that your pet is important and will take seriously your concerns and goals regarding your pet.

This article should not be construed as legal advice. Situations are different and it’s impossible to provide legal advice for every situation without knowing the individual facts. 


Tracy and Maya
Tracy and Maya

About the Author

Pictured are author Tracy Hightower-Henne, and her 7-year-old Great Dane, Maya.

Tracy says that, true to form, Maya does not realize her size, and fancies her self a true lap dog. Maya’s favorite things are: lap-based snuggles, long walks, playing tug with any kind of toy, getting lots of pets, and lap-based snuggles (she likes lap-based snuggles so much, they must be mentioned twice).

Tracy has had furry family members since her childhood. Right now, the furry family members outnumber the non-furry ones in her house. “We got Maya right before my husband and I got married. We also have 2 cats. Our pets are truly part of our family and we treat them like part of the family. They are definitely spoiled at our house. When a client tells me that keeping their pet in their divorce case is important to them, I get it. I know what it’s like to love your pets and to treat them like family.”


For more details about the author, Hightower Reff attorney Tracy Hightower, visit her profile page at our main website.

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